April 18, 2018

Tough Times Don't Last-- Tough People Do

I was thinking not too long ago, about how a friend of mine is going through a difficult time with something in her life and I don't know how to help.
It's hard to always have the right answers or the best thing to say during those rough patches throughout life, but I think reminding someone that you are there for them helps. I'm a big believer in that mindset determines your situation. 
Do I have bad days where I swear and yell after I hit a pothole that destroys my tire? Oh heck yes. What I'm saying is that it's not always easy to be positive, but you can change a situation simply by shifting your mindset. I read this quote earlier this year and it totally made me realize that- tough times don't last, tough people do. It said "Your worst day could be someone else's best day." It's all about perspective friends.

I've talked about something Chuck dealt with a few years ago, and he gave me the go ahead to give you details that I'm about to. I wanted to share this because there is A LOT of ways September 2016 could have went...but I think the way you approach a situation and deal with it can help you. My husband was just about to turn 36 when he had a stroke. We still don't know the root cause, which is scary but he actually had two of them. It's a long story that still makes me cry every time I think about it, but he woke up the day after our anniversary trip to Boston and his left hand and arm felt thing led to the next and we find out that he had one stroke on each side of his brain and lost the ability to most normal day to day functions. He worked with therapists to learn how to walk again, cook in the kitchen, and even had to re-take a driver's test. 
We were obviously very scared when this all happened, it was a shock to our entire family- but I can't imagine how Chuck felt. His attitude and perseverance always amazes me, but especially in this situation. It's shocking to hear of someone that young having a stroke (yes babe, I called you young for once- you're welcome) but imagine having to learn how to walk again. That can be a hit to your ego, and he put so much time and effort in to all his therapy to get back to functioning as he would like again. 
When we were going through this as a family I remember being tired, and forgetting things but kept thinking- Chuck is the one dealing with the most, and to be fortunate this wasn't any worse. I read a lot during those few months and came across something that basically said- tough times don't last, tough people do. It was a wonderful affirmation and a good dose of perspective that I needed. 
My husband made a full recovery from his stroke, and is still the positive man he always was through that difficult time. 

The point of all this is to remind you that exact thing- tough times don't last, but tough people do. You will make it through a rough patch if you're in one. There's always sunshine after the rain- and yours will be coming if it's not here now. Take a deep breath, maybe a nap or cry it out in the shower and then re-gain your perspective and remind yourself how tough you are. You've got this friend!

Hope you're all having a great week, and remember to smile because you're a bad@ass ;)

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