August 21, 2019

The What If's

Two weeks ago a fire at a daycare in Erie killed 5 children overnight. 
Photo by Sapan Patel on Unsplash

It was a tragic event for  the parents, caregiver and our community. 
The week prior I received a phone call at work from my Grandfather who was bawling on the other end of the phone about my Gram who was admitted to the ICU. 
The week before that I was worrying about all the what if's associated with the phone call about my breast MRI.
There are constantly what if's in life. Some of them can make you feel better about the situation, while others leave you feeling empty. If had plenty of moments wondering lately...what if this happened? They all take a toll on you and can mentally wear you out. 

Life isn't meant to be spent thinking about the what if's. Are there lessons to be learned from scary situations? Once in a while. Are there blessings that come out of emergencies? Sometimes. They're all reminders to not take a single day for granted. That doesn't mean you can't cry it out or have a bad day. I've had PLENTY the past few weeks. I think I've cried more days than I haven't. You have a rough patch, you worry, you rally and you KEEP MOVING ON. What if's can bog you down and make your mind go to places it's not meant to. One day at a time, one foot in front of the other- move forward.
The following few days after the tragic fire our city rallied together to provide support in ways that amazed me. A local convenience store said they would donate 100% of the proceeds from every cup of coffee sold last Tuesday, and $80,500 was raised in ONE day. People were buying coffee $100 and $200 at a time. THAT is how you overcome the what if's. So many people were talking about smoke detectors, safety precautions and what if's...but so many MORE people were helping these parents who woke up without children move forward and provide support.
Find your support system and hug them tight. Give back to a friend or family member when they need it. Don't ask what you can do to help- show up, bring a meal, embrace with a hug and lend a listening ear. We can all do something to help someone, whether it's a cup of coffee or mowing their lawn. 
I know I'm all over the place with this post, but I'll leave you with this. 
Don't spend time that could be spent living, worrying about the what if's. Life is too short-dream big, buy the shoes ;)

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