What Went Wrong: Wedding Wednesday | Dream Big & Buy The Shoes

August 17, 2016

What Went Wrong: Wedding Wednesday

For those who have been following along our wedding journey and recaps, you know I often (okay, all the time) refer to it as the Best Day Ever. Not every wedding is perfect though, and we definitely had some things go wrong. Here's what happened...


The Father/Daughter Dance-
We had all intentions of doing a dance medley and ending it with a slow song. I chose some music and we had so much fun texting back and forth and showing off our dance moves when we got to see each other. We had everything from some Will Smith to Fleetwood Mac and some really great ideas. I live 3 hours away from my Dad and in the midst of planning a wedding didn't get to see him face to face as much as we would have needed to practice and plan it all out. I really wish that it would have all worked out, because my Dad LOVES to dance. I have memories of our daddy/ daughter dance in elementary school and my Dad splitting his pants from all his moves. When Uptown Funk came out a few years ago we jammed to it on his boat and at his house, we all loved it so much and were going to start the medley with that since they mention "Saturday night" in it. When Uptown Funk came on later in the night during the reception I ran off the dance floor and grabbed my Dad who was mid-conversation and pulled him out there. I was so in the moment and we have some of the best pictures of him and Chuck dancing to it. I will never forget them singing, laughing, and having a blast while it was on...I loved every second of it.

The DJ-
While we're on the subject of music...let's talk about the DJ. Guys, the wedding industry is crazy. Not only is it expensive, but wow do you need to book things early. The first thing we did after finding a venue and setting our date was start the hunt for amazing vendors. Pictures and music were high on the priority list so after we secured our photographer the hunt for a DJ was on. We asked a bunch of opinions, from professionals in the business who have worked with DJ's and even looked in to one who we loved from our friend's wedding in Pittsburgh to travel. Everyone, and I mean everyone we contacted was booked...and this was over a year before our wedding. I left Chuck in charge and he did a ton of research and ending up finally finding one. I think it was after lots of sweat, tears, and I'm sure a few arguments. I was kind of panicking, it was insane. It ended up working out perfectly, we had a great DJ who did everything we wanted and was so fun. He came out and danced and played all the songs we wanted to hear. I'm so happy it all came together in the end.

the view from rehearsal dinner at the lakehouse
The Rehearsal Dinner-
We originally began planning our wedding with our venue under coordination of one wedding planner. At some point through the planning process we were informed she was no longer working there and we didn't finally meet with the new coordinator until a few months prior to the big day. We had come to find out that several things that were communicated to us were actually not true. It turned out that there were minimums and restrictions for the rehearsal dinner to be held at the venue, ones we weren't able and willing to work with. At the end of the day, it's a dinner...another one in addition to the expense of the actual wedding day. We didn't have a final rehearsal dinner location until less than two weeks before. It ended up being absolutely perfect and laid back, just how we wanted it and needed it as we anticipated our wedding day. We had a cookout style dinner at a beautiful house on the lake. There was a multi-level deck, all our family and close friends, laughter and everything we could hope for. The sunset was perfect, the view was great and we had so much fun hanging out with everyone. 

the sunset couldn't be any more perfect!

The Fireworks-
The very first meeting we had at our venue ended with a trip to the coordinator's office. We walked in and sat down and saw this amazing picture on the wall with fireworks going off in the background. Chuck asked "How do we make THAT happen?" We were told that it was an add-on that we could have for our wedding night. Yes, done. Chuck talked about those fireworks every time we discussed the wedding. We were so excited and decided that it was going to be a secret, for everyone...not a single person would know about this, except for the photographers. Well, during our menu tasting we brought it up to the coordinator and were unfortunately informed that they no longer were doing fireworks. What? How....why? NO! We were SO bummed to find out that this wouldn't be happening. She told us that we could find a firework company on our own, but they had to meet the venue agreements. From there we looked in to a few companies, but it just didn't work out. To be honest, this was the part I was most bummed about not happening. It was the one big thing Chuck wanted. Throughout the whole planning process he let me carry out my vision and happily agreed to everything. He listened to me complain when people were throwing in their two cents, let me cry when I was sad about missing my Mom, and was everything I needed when things weren't easy. I wanted him to have his part of the planning and have a big surprise at night to end our perfect day. Almost all of the people at our wedding never knew this was a plan and still don't know it was until reading this because I was that sad over it not happening that I just didn't mention it at all. Chuck was a real trooper about it all, because if that was the one big thing I wanted and didn't get it I probably would have cried...ha-ha.


We're not perfect, but our wedding day was. To us.  It goes to show that the only thing that matters at the end of the day is getting married. I'm so thankful that the rest of the day went as great as we had both dreamed. 

Thank you for reading, sharing, commenting and re-living the high points, the sentimental moments and all the fun in between. You guys are the sweetest!


Wedding Wednesday in week's past...in case you missed it:

Details & Vendors:
Photography: R. Frank Photography
Cake & Cupcakes: Allie Cakes
The Dress: Bridal Elegance
Bride's Shoes: Badgley Mischka (similar)
Bride's Clutch: Rent The Runway
Groom & Best Man  Shoes: Nike Lockwood
Flowers: Afloral (handmade bouquets by the Bride)
Bridesmaid Dresses: Weddington Way
Bridesmaid Earrings: Frou Frou & Frill
Butterflies: Shallowtail Farms

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