You've heard it all...save time and get pictures- do a first look, or keep it traditional and don't do a first look. I strongly encourage you to go with your gut, that's what we did. I was considering and actually opting for a first look because I felt like everyone said you should do it. When I brought the idea up to Chuck he was not on board with that plan.
Chuck wanted to stick to the traditional route, and did not want to see me until I walked down the aisle. He didn't even want to see my shoes that I was so excited to show him until our wedding day. I accepted that and was glad he reminded me of what we had initially planned on, which was keeping in traditional.
I needed to talk to Chuck before I walked down the aisle. I had serious anticipation that I was going to be an emotional mess the whole morning, mostly related to my mom not being there. Chuck always calms me and I needed to connect with him somehow.
I had seen the idea of a couple getting pictures before the ceremony, but not actually seeing each other. Pictures were staged around the corner from one another or on the other sides of a doorway. I asked Chuck if he would be willing to do a "first touch" so I could hold his hand and hear his voice. Thankfully, he agreed and the first touch became a thing.
Our wedding coordinator at the venue set up the perfect spot right by where the bridesmaids and I were getting dressed. Our photographer was there to shoot some pictures of the whole thing and some of these pictures are my favorite from the whole day. It was a really special moment and I'm excited to share it with you today.
I was hidden in the room past these white doors and off to the right with the rest of my bridesmaids while they set Chuck and Ethan in to place. I absolutely love these pictures of my guys...they are two of a kind.
It was time to bring me out and I was so nervous Chuck was going to somehow catch a glimpse of me, but it all worked out perfectly.
We were both so nervous...just look at our faces. I felt so much better once I heard his voice though. Ethan was a little confused at first as to how this was all happening and at this point I still hadn't seen him. Once Ethan came around the corner, I lost it. I seriously lost it...I'll let the pictures do the explaining.
I couldn't get over how grown up he looked and how adorable he was in a suit. He is the sweetest little man and seeing him looking like such an adult made me break down in to tears. Ethan said to me "Oh man, I knew you were going to cry." He knows me so well and I am a highly emotional person who cries easily. He then followed it up with "Dad, have you seen her yet? She looks good!"
After I put myself back together, Chuck gave me a sweet note that I read in private a little later. I couldn't risk messing up my makeup again, especially in front of the camera...ha-ha.
Our first touch was the perfect way to ease my mind, talk to one another, and share a special time with just the three of us before the day began. I still got to see the look on Chuck's face the moment our eyes met as I walked down the aisle.
I wouldn't change a thing about the decision we made to not do a first look. While, it may be for others we found a way to connect that worked just perfect for us. You should always do what's best for you and your husband and don't worry what others think. Do what's in your heart.
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