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July 8, 2015

The Things You Really Need To Remember When Registering For Your Wedding

A few weeks ago Chuck and I registered for our wedding. After reading article after Buzzfeed post after bridal magazine advice on what to register for...we decided to use our own method.
There's no science behind it, no calculations, no drawn out advice. We registered for what we wanted.

Crazy, right?! I swear our society is run on opinions, which can be a good and bad thing if you ask me. I appreciate all the advice that's out there, but once I read too much I get overwhelmed and start questioning my own thoughts and ideas.

I am not here to tell you what you personally need to register for, but I want to share with you what worked for us when we went through the process and some key advice I think every bride should take.

Since Chuck and I have been together for 7 years, we have accumulated a lot of stuff. We have dishes, and bedding, and most things that people register for. That's great, but we wanted new things. The dishes we have are the ones I purchased for my first apartment on my own, when I was working my first job out of college. So, why not register for some things we like together as a couple?

Here's my tips:

1. It doesn't matter if you already have it. If you want something new to replace your old, go for it.
We registered for towels, dishes, silverware, bedding...all things which we already have. We wanted to get some things as a couple, that I hadn't picked out 8+ years ago.

2. Just because it's on some bridal list, you don't need to register for it. 
If you're not going to use expensive China, or an expensive blender then don't register for it. Why scan items you don't need and probably won't use just because someone out there said you should?

3. The more the better. 
I read in so many articles that if you want money as gifts for your wedding, then keep your registry list small. While I'm not opposed to money, I wanted people to have options. We may not get the $400 spirits cabinet we asked for, but we loved it. Heck, if we get it, that would be an amazing gift that we weren't so much expecting.

4. You can ask for non-traditional items.
We registered for a camera lens, a router, a fire pit and a few more things that we would like. As I mentioned before, there's a lot of things we already have such as serving dishes, beer glasses, etc... We could really use the above mentioned things, so we went right ahead and asked for them.

5. Feel free to have FUN
Last, but not least...my biggest piece of advice to registering is to have fun with it. We had such a good time registering. We wrote down things that we definitely wanted to look for while we browsed the store, and scanned additional things that we came across and thought we should ask for. We laughed, we took turns scanning & we had a great time. We even registered for some Nerf guns...because, why not? Life is too short to not have a blast!

We registered for a variety of items at 2 different stores. I did keep our guests in mind when registering, and didn't register at stores that overwhelm me when I shop for presents. I wanted places that you could shop both in person and online and easily update items, so we chose Crate & Barrel and Target. 

It's nice to get an idea of what "real people" register for, and not some list with hundreds of items. If you want to take a look at the things that made our registry list you can find them here:




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22 comments:

  1. #1 is the best tip because that's exactly what we did while registering basically upgrading everything we had lol! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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  2. Yes! It's all about what you guys want! My advice would be to remember that stores like Target turn over their merchandise fairly quickly, so stay on top of what has sold out and not been restocked so you can choose other options. I registered at Target in August, and by September, several of the items I had chosen were no longer there--I hadn't realized they were seasonal.

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  3. This is really awesome advice! I've been having some anxiety about registering because of those same reasons you mentioned. We've lived together for 4 years, what if people judge me, we might not need that right now, etc. Thank you for helping to put my mind at ease!!

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  4. I did the same thing. We used myregistry.com so we could get items from various sites, and not have 10 registries. We are both in our 30s, but haven't lived together, so we definitely needed to upgrade, or just make our house a home. Looking forward to more posts:)

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  5. Thanks Biana, I think it's important to remember that it is YOUR day so do what works best for the couple. I'm glad you had the same approach ;) XO!

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  6. Sometimes I feel guilty thinking that way, but hey...it is our wedding. Thank you for the tip on Target, I didn't realize that. I knew a few items at Crate & Barrel were seasonal...but I didn't know that for Target. Thank you so much for the information Chelsea :)

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  7. Thank you so much Alex! It can all be overwhelming at some point...it really is. I've been trying to find ways to focus on just a few things at a time and knock things off the list. I can't stress enough how important it is to have fun with it. Just worry about yourselves for the day...ENJOY IT. I'm so glad this helped you, that means alot to me!

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  8. Thank you Melissa. I am hoping this helps people going through the same thing, so that means so much to me. If I can help even one person I've done my job :) All of this wedding stuff is fun, but it's so stressful too...it's nice to enjoy all these parts!

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  9. You've got that right Nina. It was a great time after we had some things agreed upon and nailed down to begin. Thank you girl!

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  10. Great tips! We were in a similar situation and did pretty much the same thing. Some of the stuff we included wasn't your typical wedding registry stuff, but hey it's what we wanted! We weren't looking forward to registering, but once we got started with those guns, it was a blast!

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  11. These are such awesome ideas!! My husband had to kept reminding me that we could register for things, even if we already had them - we both had super old pots and pans from college, so the upgrades were much-needed! I love the fire pit idea, we registered for things like beach towels and a couple of lawn games we found at Bed, Bath, and Beyond and people loved buying those special things instead of just one dish set.

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  12. These are some great tips. I love that y'all registered for nerf guns, haha. We also registered for a fire pit, and actually got one so that's cool! I really enjoyed registering and Thomas did for the most part, but he really likes getting this gifts..haha!

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  13. Great tips, cant wait to do my registry.

    xx Falasha

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  14. I think you offered some great tips here. Weddings are becoming less traditional and sometimes expensive China dishes and crystal glasses are no longer needed unless that's fits your style and will us it. It's great to include a variety of items in all price ranges to suit everyone's budget and don't feel bad about putting $400+ items because maybe (1) someone on your guest list wants to purchase big or (2) you have a group of friends/family/coworkers that want to pitch in for an expensive gift....

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  15. Thank you so much Julia! It was a really fun part, I could do that again :)

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  16. Thank you so much Kate! I figured we could use some updating around here ;)

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  17. Thank you Emily, I really appreciate that. Yes, there are so many changes in the way things are done these days. I like your point of groups going in on gifts, my girlfriends and I sometimes do that. Thank you for your great points and comments, XO!

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  18. Thank you Falasha, I hope you have fun and enjoy it all!

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  19. Thank you Mary...we just had to...we are such goofballs! Yay for a firepit! Chuck had such a blast, it made me really happy to see him enjoying some of the things he gets to be involved in ;)

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  20. Thank you Meg, I really appreciate that! Pots and pans are always super useful! Beach towels and lawn games are awesome ideas...I love the non-traditional items :)

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  21. Thank you Andrea, I'm glad you enjoyed the post. Right..who cares if it's not typical...if it's what you want and need then go for it! The scanning was more fun than I expected it to be, haha!

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  22. Agreed, Thomas enjoyed registering once we were let out on our own and not with the lady from the store. :) I hope you both are enjoying these last couple months!!

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