5 Essential Wedding Planning Tips | Dream Big & Buy The Shoes

May 27, 2015

5 Essential Wedding Planning Tips

Throughout my wedding planning I haven't shared a ton of details or written about it, because I want much of what is to come at our big day to be a surprise for our guests. I am excited to share what has worked for me, or advice I can offer to other brides as time moves along. 





Make a list with ALL the details
When we first got engaged I began writing a list with bullet points and ideas for every part of our wedding. From guest list, to wedding shower and beyond full of reminders of tricks for coordinating seating arrangements and cute invitations I had seen years ago. It's a good idea to have everything in one place. My master list is about 10 pages full of notes, dates, prices and reminders. The more you have written down in one big list the less chaotic it will be trying to gather your ideas from all the different places you have them stored.

It's never too early to begin
I got engaged in April of last year and began purchasing things and planning right away. There were certain things that Chuck and I knew we wanted so it was easy to get started on all the details. People will tell you that "you have time", which is true, but now that I am 5 months out there is still many little items that still need to come together and get checked off the list. Start contacting vendors, venues and family members early on so that you can get your big day planned just the way you like. I learned the hard way with choosing a DJ that these things go fast. If you can meet with people and select the things you want early on, you will have a lot less to worry about as time goes by.

At the end of the day, this is YOUR big day
Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful, especially when so many people are involved. I started taking things very personally when people didn't like my ideas or our plans for the wedding. It was upsetting to hear certain things, but talking to friends who have been through this before made me feel much better. Everyone has an opinion, it's true, but when all and said is done this is your wedding, no one else. My thought about it now is "If I'm going to do this once it's going to be exactly the way I dreamed." It can be difficult to let things roll off your back, but please, for your sanity, take people's comments and move on. You may learn something from them, but don't let them stress you out. Enjoy the planning, creating and dreaming of your wedding day.

Don't compare yourself.
Stick to your vision. Organize your thoughts on a Pinterest board or a vision board and go from there. Don't let Pinterest take over your wedding though. I had to tell myself this when I had my centerpieces found, planned, purchased and done last year. I then started seeing more beautiful ideas online and thought mine should be bigger, or blingier. It's hard to not compare your wedding to others, just like we analyze every other part of our lives we do the same when it comes to flowers, favors and everything wedding. Don't get caught up in the wedding hype...the industry will try to sell you everything under the sun, but stay on your path and don't overdo it.

Don't buy the first thing you see.
Get plenty of options and save yourself some money. I researched tons of websites just for some napkins and finally purchased them with a coupon I received for signing up for their e-mails and a promo code I had found online. I have scored so many great deals by checking out multiple businesses and my good friend Google. A few great websites I found amazing ideas and pieces for our big day: Afloral, Tradesy & Wedding Paper Divas.


I hope these tips help other brides in the planning process, since I know it can be overwhelming. If you stay organized and follow these tips you will be able to stay calm and plan the wedding of your dreams.

Any other helpful advice for us brides to be?




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21 comments:

  1. Awesome tips! I love that you stress how important it is not to compare, and to be authentic to you! Love it,

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  2. Wonderful tips!! i think starting right away is always a good idea especially with big vendors like your venue, photographer etc - the good ones get scooped up early! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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  3. Great advice! Such an exciting time for you! I love that you said not to compare yourself. It's so important to just enjoy your day and appreciate every moment

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  4. Thank you Bree. I have loved planning our big day, and have really enjoyed making it unique, so sticking to the plan is key :) Thank you for reading!

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  5. Thank you Biana, yes luckily we found an excellent DJ, but I couldn't believe they booked up almost 2 years in advance!

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  6. I was thinking that as I wrote it B, planning parties is almost exactly like a wedding! I'm glad you enjoyed the tips, although you and M are the party masters!

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  7. Thank you Carissa. It is very important to me to make our wedding fun, but do it within our budget and stick to our vision. I can't wait to see how it all plays out!

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  8. Thank you so much, I am glad you enjoyed them :)

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  9. These are really great pieces of advice! I am totally with you on starting early. I actually started buying for my future wedding before we were engaged, just little things here and there, and it was a huge help. I also have taken advantage of Tradesy, there are so many items from Davids Bridal on that website!


    Thanks for linking up with us!

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  10. These are such perfect tips!! We didn't share a lot of what we were doing leading up to the wedding either - gotta keep it a surprise :) I especially love the "your day" and lists ones. My MOH made a HUGE list for me on Google Docs and it was my bible for the 13 months of planning haha. Thanks for linking up with us this week!

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  11. Great tips!! Totally agree on making it YOUR day and not worrying about what others think. Sounds like you are on the right track :)

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  12. Yes to starting early. We had a really long engagement, so that was fun to start doing the big things so early on. And it got them out of the way quickly so we could focus on being engaged. It's such a fun time!

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  13. Great list girl! I also started early and booked the big vendors as soon as I could (which was smart because the good ones book fast and far in advance). I then started working on little projects, but took a few months off from wedding planning over the holidays which was a refreshing break before gearing up for the last few months. Can't believe you're 5 months out, soooo close!

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  14. That's an awesome idea Macy, it has been a big help to have things taken care of early on. I was so excited to find Tradesy!

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  15. I'm glad I'm not the only one not sharing a lot, I want people to be surprised and spoiled :) I can't wait to share all the personal touches after the wedding on the blog. I am glad you enjoyed the tips and I can't wait to link up more in the future! Thanks for reading Meg!

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  16. Thank you so much Andrea. It was hard at first, but I am so excited for our big day I am not letting other opinions get in the way! Thank you for reading!

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  17. Yes Kristyn, there really is so much to do that starting early is so important. Working full time, blogging and life in general have me really busy so I'm glad I've done things here and there to prepare!

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  18. Thank you Kate, they do get taken real early! I am SO close it's crazy, the little last minute things are what needs done, so I feel like I'm pretty on track. Thanks for your support :)

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  19. These are some fantastic tips. I really like the do things early on tip. I think it's good to start doing things, even if its just small things, so that you aren't as overwhelmed when it gets closer to the big day. Also, not buying the first thing is SO hard, but a great tip. You can almost always find a cheaper option than the first thing you come across.


    I can't wait to see how your day turns out!

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  20. Thank you Mary! Your countdown lists have really helped me map things out. I have found so many things after I sign up for emails with coupon codes, etc. It's been a HUGE help! I am excited to see yours too :) YAY brides of 2015!

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