Throughout my wedding planning I haven't shared a ton of details or written about it, because I want much of what is to come at our big day to be a surprise for our guests. I am excited to share what has worked for me, or advice I can offer to other brides as time moves along.
Make a list with ALL the details
When we first got engaged I began writing a list with bullet points and ideas for every part of our wedding. From guest list, to wedding shower and beyond full of reminders of tricks for coordinating seating arrangements and cute invitations I had seen years ago. It's a good idea to have everything in one place. My master list is about 10 pages full of notes, dates, prices and reminders. The more you have written down in one big list the less chaotic it will be trying to gather your ideas from all the different places you have them stored.
It's never too early to begin
I got engaged in April of last year and began purchasing things and planning right away. There were certain things that Chuck and I knew we wanted so it was easy to get started on all the details. People will tell you that "you have time", which is true, but now that I am 5 months out there is still many little items that still need to come together and get checked off the list. Start contacting vendors, venues and family members early on so that you can get your big day planned just the way you like. I learned the hard way with choosing a DJ that these things go fast. If you can meet with people and select the things you want early on, you will have a lot less to worry about as time goes by.
At the end of the day, this is YOUR big day
Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful, especially when so many people are involved. I started taking things very personally when people didn't like my ideas or our plans for the wedding. It was upsetting to hear certain things, but talking to friends who have been through this before made me feel much better. Everyone has an opinion, it's true, but when all and said is done this is your wedding, no one else. My thought about it now is "If I'm going to do this once it's going to be exactly the way I dreamed." It can be difficult to let things roll off your back, but please, for your sanity, take people's comments and move on. You may learn something from them, but don't let them stress you out. Enjoy the planning, creating and dreaming of your wedding day.
Don't compare yourself.
Stick to your vision. Organize your thoughts on a Pinterest board or a vision board and go from there. Don't let Pinterest take over your wedding though. I had to tell myself this when I had my centerpieces found, planned, purchased and done last year. I then started seeing more beautiful ideas online and thought mine should be bigger, or blingier. It's hard to not compare your wedding to others, just like we analyze every other part of our lives we do the same when it comes to flowers, favors and everything wedding. Don't get caught up in the wedding hype...the industry will try to sell you everything under the sun, but stay on your path and don't overdo it.
Don't buy the first thing you see.
Get plenty of options and save yourself some money. I researched tons of websites just for some napkins and finally purchased them with a coupon I received for signing up for their e-mails and a promo code I had found online. I have scored so many great deals by checking out multiple businesses and my good friend Google. A few great websites I found amazing ideas and pieces for our big day: Afloral, Tradesy & Wedding Paper Divas.
I hope these tips help other brides in the planning process, since I know it can be overwhelming. If you stay organized and follow these tips you will be able to stay calm and plan the wedding of your dreams.
Any other helpful advice for us brides to be?