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April 30, 2015

You Are Beautiful: Above All

I've talked about comparison here before. I struggle with it, and sometimes it seems to consume me. If I get too deep in to thinking about things I tend to find myself depressed.

 
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I think we all compare. Jobs, houses, relationships, shoes, bags...they're all things to size up and they are different to each one of us. Recently I've been comparing this space of mine here on the Internet.I've mentioned how many amazing relationships and opportunities this hobby has brought meWhen I started blogging I would have never guessed it would bring me the happiness that it does.  Lately it has me in a different frame of mind though. Is it time consuming? Yes. It is stressful? Sure is. You see, I'm a  perfectionist by nature. I'm extremely organized and obsessive sometimes to a fault. Years ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and mild OCD, and there are times that I simply can't control it.There's certain triggers that bring out my anxiety and instances where my OCD kicks in...some of them are social settings, other times it's the fact that I can't control situations. 

Other blogs have inspired me...they gave me the courage to start one of my own, they give me creative fuel, they make me think about things I may not normally wonder and I am intrigued daily by the writers behind them. 
I keep thinking about why I don't have a newsletter, a blog series, better pictures, amazing ideas, more sponsorship opportunities, etc..etc... I compare my blog to others so much lately that it has me in  negative funk. I get so deep in thought about why why why that I'm not focusing on the how, when , where, or what. 
How can I grow? When will I take the time to put to use what I've read? Where will my blog be in 2 years? What brought me here in the first place?

The inspiration that's out there can be incredibly moving and it can also be a little dangerous. I'm not quite sure why I've been feeling this way lately, but it's not healthy. I was in one of my moods the other day and I had to stop myself from continuing any further with the pessimism. Comparison is the thief of joy. Until a few days ago I hadn't really thought about that quote, but that Roosevelt was one smart man. 

I'm here to tell you that your blog may not be perfect, but it's YOURS. Your hair may be out of place, but you're BEAUTIFUL. You may not have the career you want at the moment, but you are SMART. Quit comparing yours with the neighbors. Look in the mirror at what's in front of you and own it. Above it all, You Are Beautiful and that's why there's only one you. 

If I had a slower paced job, worked from home, didn't have a stepson, or wasn't planning a wedding....I may have the time I'm seeking to do more fun things with this space. For now, I'm a manager with an amazing little guy I'm helping raise and planning the wedding of our dreams with my fiance. Those things make me happy, and so does this blog...even with all it's little imperfections.

Join Lauren and I for the next linkup May 14th. Thank you for your constant support. 




You Are Beautiful

14 comments:

  1. I love this! I too feel like I just can't do enough on my blog. I would like to spend so much more time on my little space on the internet, but I just can't I have many other responsibilities in life. It's hard to not compare sometimes, but I have to just keep telling myself to keep doing it if it makes me happy.

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  2. So well said girl!! It is really hard not to compare to what we see on instagram or on the blog, but it's just snippets and I always remind myself that people put only the best out there - it's just a little glimpse!! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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  3. I love this so much!Comparing is really just admiring. But it can make you feel negative. Love the message in this and I need to read it every morning!

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  4. Great message, girl! So hard not to get caught up in comparison.

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  5. Love this gurlie! I've been suffering from this lately, as I just don't have the time or the money to what I'd really like to do with my little space on the internet. It's hard, but I know I shouldn't be caught up with what others are doing and focus on what I am doing and not stretch myself too thin ;-)

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  6. Thank you for hosting :)

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  7. I have been feeling the same way with my blog! I'm so tiny and I have never really wanted to be a huge blogger but at the same time it's so easy to fall into the trap of seeing all of the amazingness of other blogs and all they are doing and wonder why I can't seem to be as amazing as they are.

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  8. All good things take time....our spaces are beautiful and they are OURS, which make them the best already! I love your blog & hope to only see you grow how you want to. Thank you for reading Julia, XO!

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  9. You already do amazing things...I think it's natural for all of us to want to grow and do big things. Every little thing takes time and work. I love what you do now, and think you're awesome. Thanks for reading Kate! XO!

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  10. Thank you so much Mae, I'm working on it daily :)

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  11. Thank you Carissa, you are too kind! I do need to remind myself that I am my own person....staying positive is key :) XO!

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  12. So true Biana...we never know what others are dealing with! We are all awesome in our own ways and on our own ventures. Thank you for always being so kind and refreshingly positive :) XO!

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  13. Happiness above all Diana :) Working on a blog is so much more than I ever thought it would be...although it is work, it does make me so happy. I need to quit worrying about bigger and better and continue to work on what makes me smile. Thank you for reading, XO!

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