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March 12, 2015

I Have A Problem

So...I have a problem. It's called shopping, and I don't know if I can ever quit. Hear me out...

I love pretty things. I love decorating. I love our home. I love accessories. I love giving gifts...for every occasion. All of these things cause me to shop.
I make excuses as to why this is okay and they often go like this "It was on sale", "I haven't bought anything in a while" , "We need this", "It's Aunt Mary's sister's friends' birthday".  
I know I'm not a hoarder, and I'm not in debt from my shopping...but it definitely is a problem.

My problem reared it's head again when I was in TJ Maxx buying a gift a few days ago and I couldn't resist stopping at the jewelry counter. There it was, the Kate Spade watch I had my eyes on for MONTHS. It was less than half the price and it was staring at me. I stood there and looked at it for a few minutes and then walked away.
I had to tell myself over and over in my head that I didn't need it. I wouldn't wear it every day. I don't need to spend the money. Yes, all of those things are true, but why was it so hard for me to walk away?

Was I born to shop? Is it a female thing? How do I stop?
I know I don't buy things in excess or stretch myself beyond my means, but it needs to be more controlled.

I want to create experiences and great memories with my family and friends rather than having a new necklace. I am in the midst of planning a wedding, deciding on a honeymoon spot, and saving for another Disney cruise for family vacation in 2016. All of these things mean more to me than a new watch. 



There's nothing I love more than creating these smiles. My absolute favorite moments in life have been experiences with my family, trips to new places, and making our dreams turn in to a reality.
I need some sort of reminder to keep myself in check, and I'm not sure yet what that will be.

Maybe it's a budget for gift buying? Limiting myself to one accessory a month (or none at all)? All I do know at this moment is that I am focused on getting serious about my money so that more awesome moments like these can happen.




How do you control your budget?





16 comments:

  1. Oh man, I so feel you on this! I LOVE to shop, it's seriously like my happy place! One of my favorite ways to unwind is grab a coffee and wander around stores like Target, TJ Maxx, Old Navy, Marshall's, etc. (At least it's not Michael Kors or Nordstrom, right??) And not even planning to buy anything, I just love to browse and try things on, but of course I end up finding things I want to buy! I KNOW I will, so why do I torture myself??

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  2. I'll probably be kicked out of being a girl + the blog club when I say this -- I hate shopping. can't stand it. if I'm buying something, it's probably online. I'm good for like, two stores at the mall, then I'm sitting on the bench with all the husbands who were dragged there + whining about "when can we get cocktails?"


    now that's not to say that my online shopping isn't out of control. I always have to say to myself "now, do you want to go to europe again or do you want a pair of hunter rain boots?" just like you wanting to go on the cruise!

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  3. Girl, you have some serious self-control if you didn't purchase that watch that you've had your eye on for so long! I can normally talk myself out of buying things I don't really need, but once I've resisted once or twice and it pops up for half price, at that point it's mine-it's like it's meant to be and at that point there is no saying "no" or self-control. Way to go on not buying the watch!

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  4. I don't. It's terrible.
    In all seriousness, I've tried really hard lately to put my money towards bills. It's so hard. And I hate it.

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  5. I find myself spending too frivolously with things like trips and concert tickets. I'm lucky because I'm young and without too many responsibilities (no children, I rent, etc.) but I know I should budget better and save for future things, but sometimes in the moment it's so hard to see more than the now. Definitely a downfall of mine.

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  6. Hmm.. if you discover the magic formula to control your budget, please let me know!! I do think as bloggers and blog readers, we only make it harder on ourselves because we are constantly posting and reading about so many wonderful things. Sorry I have no great advice here, but I certainly sympathize!

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  7. Thanks for not making me feel alone M ;) I'll be sure to share my secret if I ever figure this stuff out! XO!

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  8. Exactly Kati! I have a problem in the fact that I think "I want to live my life and spend money how I want" and then I get to a point where I think "What the heck is all this stuff for?" ...it's hard, but I'm learning to be a bit better.

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  9. Thanks E, it was definitely hard, but I felt good in the end not buying it :)

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  10. I've been over the mall for a hot minute...haha, I am so bad at just wanting things. What I've done lately online is add things I think I want to the cart, and then leave it there for a day. The next day I end up removing most things, and just buying what I truly need...it's been great for me!

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  11. Same here Julia...I love just walking around and looking at things in those stores too! It's so tempting, and often turns out to be bad!

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  12. While I have never been a big shopper, I sure do have friends who can relate! ;) One of my friends uses the Envelope System... so each month, she and her husband allot themselves a certain amount of "fun money" (cash) to spend on shopping, dinner, movies, etc. Once it's out, it's out. Kelly from Southern Komfort Blog just wrote an awesome post about getting out of debt and the ways she and her hubby are spending money differently: http://southernkomfortblog.blogspot.com/2015/03/how-we-are-becoming-debt-free.html

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  13. Thank you, that post has a lot of great information. I appreciate you sending me that Emily :)

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  14. Where is a post about you Disney cruise? So fun!

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  15. Here it is Lauren: http://www.dreambigandbuytheshoes.com/2014/10/best-vacation-ever-cruisin-away.html ...it was seriously the best trip ever. I get happy tears just thinking about it. I cried when we walked off the ship because I didn't want to leave.

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