January 21, 2015

As You Grow Older

I like to think that we grow older rather than get older. Growing comes not only with age, but maturity, circumstances, and the way you deal with what life throws at you. Besides that, it sounds better too.

I was never the girl who was afraid of turning 30. Age is just a number, really, it is. I am loving life in my 30's more than I was at 21. There's several reasons for that, but I think the most important is that I am really getting to know who I am.

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As you grow older you learn that the number of friends you have is nowhere near important the quality of frienships. 
In high school you may have had a huge group of girlfriends and you tried so hard to be friends with everyone. I've learned that you can still be nice to people, but when it comes down to it, there's certain people that are truly your friends. I am lucky to have some friends in my life that have been here since preschool. Yes, we had disagreements throughout the years, feelings have been hurt, but we also have been there for each other at the most crucial times throughout the years...without judgement. I have made plenty of mistakes in my life, done things I wish I wouldn't have, and said things I wish I should have thought about before they came out of my mouth. Your true friends understand and are not only there when you have the best times to celebrate but when shit hits the fan too.

I have learned that I should have listened to my Grandma all those years when she said "Time goes so much faster as the years go on." 
She was right, well she always I'm not sure why I ever doubted her on this one. I swore yesterday was January 3rd. It wasn't...actually, it's almost February. WHAT THE HECK? If that doesn't give you any more reason to live life exactly how you want every second of the day, I don't know what will. Before you know it Christmas will be here again. YOLO my friends.

The number on the scale doesn't matter.
I'm not just saying that because I haven't been a size 2 in a few (8) years. Truth is, when I was a size 2 I still wasn't happy. I wanted bigger boobs, my hair wasn't right, I wished my butt filled out my jeans.
The number on the scale won't make your smile bigger. It won't change your life. It won't erase your problems. It won't make you a better person. 

In the past few years of gaining more weight than I would have liked to, I've been called fat. Honestly, it doesn't hurt me. It makes me look in the mirror and wonder why I don't have the motivation to set down the Cheez Its and hit the gym, but I don't stand there and cry. I feel bad for the people that think calling me fat makes me feel anything but sorry for them. 
The number doesn't define you. I promise.

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Bad things happen to good people. 
Life doesn't always make sense. Profound statement, huh? But won't figure if out as you grow older. People you love will die. Tragic events may rock your world. Your heart will break. You start to wonder, why me? Guess what...these things happen every single day, to millions of people across the world. The way you handle these moments is what will change you, not the event itself.
You learn that in the absence of your mother you can help others dealing with the same type of loss. The same jerk that you dated and verbally abused you may never change, but you're now a stronger person because of it. You don't take shit from anyone anymore and learn to stand your ground.

Instead of being bitter and facing the world upset with the things you have been handed, you learn that life is way too short to be angry. Mend fences with the people you upset in the past. Help someone by listening to their story because they may need your help more than you realize. 

Life is too short to be anything but happy. Be happy today.


  1. The Sequin NotebookJanuary 21, 2015 at 10:32 AM

    Completely agree with so much of this about life in your 30s, especially about the friendships - it's definitely quality over quantity!

  2. Excellent post and so relevant! I can't believe anyone has called you fat-what's wrong with those idiots? As always, thank you for sharing!

  3. Thank you gals, and thank you for always reading and your support! XO!

  4. Thank you so much Elisa. You're the best...thank you for all of your kind words, support and friendship. :)